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Us & marriage · A guided journal
Our Marriage, By Design
Build a marriage that fits the life you both want.
Getting married, already married, or wondering whether the life you are building still reflects what you both want? These 300 questions help you look beyond assumptions and talk through expectations, routines, responsibilities and your future together. From money and intimacy to the mental load and family involvement, put everyday life into words. Write privately or together, notice where your wishes meet or differ, and decide which conversations matter now.
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Both PDF versions included. No physical book is shipped. Printing costs are not included.
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Does this sound familiar?
Start with the question
that stays with you.
Getting married
You may agree on a wedding and still picture different everyday lives. Discuss money, family involvement, care and responsibilities so you can begin with expectations you have actually talked through.
Already married
Perhaps the same disagreements return, or a once-fair routine no longer fits. Revisit what each of you needs today and identify which arrangements deserve a new conversation.
- When we say we want the same things, what does that mean in an ordinary week?
- Which responsibilities have we divided without ever discussing them?
- What do we each need now that we have not said out loud?
Inside the journal
The questions behind everyday life.
- Family influences
- Money and careers
- Sharing the mental load
- Home and everyday life
- Digital habits and privacy
- Communication and intimacy
- Children and blended families
- Co-parenting
- Caregiving and support
- The future we want to build
A question from these pages
“What do you need in a relationship that affection alone does not provide?”
From the journal · Question 35 · page 13
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Our Marriage, By Design
Your journal, at a glance
A shared life you both help shape.
- 01The 300-question journal
Put everyday expectations into words, recognise what each of you values and identify the parts of your shared life you want to plan or reconsider.
- 02Your first step
Choose one everyday topic, such as money, time together or household tasks. Write what you expect, then use what you are comfortable sharing to begin a conversation.
- 03Two PDF editions. Four companion sheets.
89 pages per edition, in English. Write by hand or type your answers. Each PDF includes Extra answer sheet, After a conversation, One next step and Returning to these pages.
Printable + fillable PDFs included
For your own life together, or a thoughtful wedding or anniversary gift.
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Before you begin
A few questions
before you begin.
Can I try the journals before buying?
Yes. Select TRY IT FREE to open a six-page sample with two questions from each of our five journals. Download the printable version to write by hand, or the fillable version to type your answers. No email is needed for the current sample download.
Will a printed book be delivered?
Every journal includes a printable and a fillable PDF in English. No physical book is shipped and printing costs are not included. You can print the whole journal or just the pages you want to write on.
Can I type directly into the PDF?
Yes. Each journal includes a fillable A4 PDF and a separate printable A4 PDF with the same questions. Use a PDF app that supports form fields, save a copy, then close and reopen it to check your answers. Support varies between apps; keep your writing within the visible fields.
What is included in each journal?
Two English-language A4 PDFs: printable and fillable. Love contains 500 questions across 142 pages per edition; the other four journals each contain 300 questions across 89 pages per edition. Every PDF includes four companion sheets: Extra answer sheet, After a conversation, One next step and Returning to these pages. US Letter is not included.
Do I have to know what the problem is?
No. A hope, a recurring thought, a relationship you value or something you cannot quite put into words can all be a starting point. The questions help you notice what is happening now, clarify what matters to you and consider your own next step.
Can I buy one journal or a collection?
Buy any journal individually, or choose the Complete Collection with all five. The main purchase buttons open the matching Whop offer. Check Whop for your final price, currency, applicable tax and download details. Etsy and Gumroad are available as alternatives; prices and offers can differ between platforms.
Do I need to finish every question?
No. Start with a chapter that matters today. One word, a few lines or simply considering a question can be enough. Skip a question, pause, and come back whenever you want.
Do we have to answer together?
You can write privately, discuss selected questions, or do both. Our Marriage, By Design is for couples preparing to marry and those already married. You do not have to share your writing, agree on every answer or involve the other person.
Which journal should I begin with?
Choose the relationship that has your attention today. The love journal explores your broader relationship with love and yourself. The other four focus on marriage, parents, siblings and becoming a parent.
Is this therapy or relationship advice?
These journals are for personal reflection and optional conversation, for adults aged 18 and over. They are not therapy, diagnosis or professional advice, and do not promise an outcome. If a question feels overwhelming, stop and consider the support you need.
Start with what matters today
What do you want
your next chapter to look like?
Begin with the question you keep coming back to. Put what you want into words, then consider the choice or conversation that could move you towards it. Start for yourself, or give someone you care about a thoughtful place to begin.
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